How to Choose to Forget the Hard Times

Happy Eczema Free Days

One of things I worry most about with Tristan’s eczema is, will he look back on his toddler years (when his eczema was the worst) with fear in his eyes?

Will he remember the countless nights he spent writhing in itchy agony in his bed as my husband and I took turns holding him and trying to calm his irritated skin and restless mind?

Will he remember his hysterical pleas to skip just one bath or how it felt when the cool bath water burned his broken skin as he screamed and lashed out?

Will he remember my husband and I holding him down as we slathered on cream multiple times a day, every day, each time the stinging and his tears were relentless?

Will he remember seeing mommy cry all those times?

At 4.5 years old, I’m very relieved to say that Tristan doesn’t remember how itchy he used to be or how severe his head-to-toe eczema actually was.

Happy Eczema Free Days

A happy Tristan and a tear-less mom enjoying these eczema managed days.

Just a few months after he turned 3 we FINALLY got a handle on his eczema. (You can read about our family’s battle with eczema here. Or you can view our various Eczema Trials for all the details.) That was just a little over one year ago.  He has memories from around that time, just nothing to do with his eczema. For that I am grateful. I’m guessing this is an example of selective memory at it’s finest.

If you’re dealing with the emotional and physical stresses of eczema today, hang in there. Things will improve. Just stick with your intuition and be an advocate for your child, like this mom.

If all this talk about the challenges of dealing with severe eczema has got you down, take a minute to enjoy a laugh at our eczema spoof “Stuff Eczema Mamas Say.” I’m sure you can relate….and please try to look past my horrible acting skills.


  1. Jennifer on January 23, 2013 at 9:59 pm

    Thank you for linking back to my post and for the supportive words about It’s an Itchy Little World.

  2. Mei (@MarcieMom) on January 24, 2013 at 5:54 am

    I believe our #eczema kids can forget, we probably remember and still can choke tears! 🙂

    • Jennifer on January 24, 2013 at 10:49 am

      Yes, I believe you are right – it’s the parents that will never forget those difficult times.

  3. April on January 10, 2014 at 11:37 am

    This made me cry. I’ve been wondering those exact things about my 2.5 year old and it’s so painful to see as a parent. Words can’t express how calming it was to read this.

    • Jennifer on January 13, 2014 at 12:19 pm

      Hi April – I know and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Ages 2-3 were the hardest for my son and for our family in general. Severe eczema really takes a toll on every family member, but obviously the physical pain our little one’s with eczema suffer outweighs all that. Thankfully they do recover both psychically and mentally. You’ll get there! Hugs! Jennifer

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